Parenting is hard.
Parents are human.
There will be times when you just lose your temper. Use this as a teaching moment. I tell children at the studio, “It’s okay to feel angry, it’s not okay to act mean.” I usually give a form of time out to the child while they process this idea.
You can use this as an adult as well. Rather than lash out, sometimes, you have to just give yourself a time out.
With my own children, I might say, “I’m so angry, I can’t talk to you right now. We’ll talk about it later.” This is an important time for you to calm down and also so you don’t throw out some threat of a punishment you don’t really want
to use.
As far as punishments go, it is important to have your consequences in mind
before something comes up, but that’s a discussion for another blog. (Check out the “If you say it, do it” topic, coming soon)
But for this one, feel your feelings, use your manners, explain your actions. This is especially important when parents fight in front of the children. As a rule, you try to present a united front to your children, but if that doesn’t happen and an argument ensues, just make sure that your children see you make-up, too. They should learn the forgiveness part of disagreements as well.
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