{"id":89,"date":"2025-06-03T01:32:52","date_gmt":"2025-06-03T01:32:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ldkparentingfoundation.org\/?p=89"},"modified":"2025-06-03T01:32:52","modified_gmt":"2025-06-03T01:32:52","slug":"i-dont-want-to","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ldkparentingfoundation.org\/?p=89","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;I Don&#8217;t Want To!&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> One of the most common arguments I get to witness is the transition from my program when the parents come to pick up their kids. I wish I could say that it<br>is because I am so wonderful that the kids never want to leave! The truth is much simpler. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"538\" src=\"https:\/\/ldkparentingfoundation.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/ldk-i-don-t-want-to-1024x538.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-90\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ldkparentingfoundation.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/ldk-i-don-t-want-to-1024x538.png 1024w, https:\/\/ldkparentingfoundation.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/ldk-i-don-t-want-to-300x158.png 300w, https:\/\/ldkparentingfoundation.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/ldk-i-don-t-want-to-768x403.png 768w, https:\/\/ldkparentingfoundation.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/ldk-i-don-t-want-to.png 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Children (and adults!) resist transitions. They simply don\u2019t want to stop what<br>they\u2019re doing to go do whatever else it is that you want them to do. I routinely walk children through transitions. From homework time to free time, from free time to karate class, and yes, when I can I help parents get them ready to go home. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">My secret?<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Prepare them ahead of time. I like to give warnings especially when I see a child deep in play. \u201cAlright, you have about ten more minutes, then I need you to clean up and be ready for class.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They might resist the first time or two, because I am consistent, it becomes an easy routine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Parents: when you want your child to leave without an argument, try giving them a warning. \u201cWe need to leave in four minutes (I never use five<br>\u2013 it\u2019s overused and no one takes it seriously), so I need you to stop and put your shoes on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The next thing you do is the most important. You have to actually leave in four<br>minutes. So many times, we tell children to hurry because we need to leave and then we start talking and don\u2019t actually go. In essence, we teach them that we don\u2019t really mean what we say. If you\u2019re not in a hurry, don\u2019t say it. If you are, mean it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Good luck!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of the most common arguments I get to witness is the transition from my program when the parents come to pick up their kids. I wish I could say that itis because I am so wonderful that the kids never want to leave! The truth is much simpler. Children (and adults!) resist transitions. 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